Personal Relationships

It seems like everyone has a magickal spell or method to bring a lover into your life, however after you get your lover into your life how do you keep that special someone in your life? While there is no sure fire way to keep your lover from straying there are some proven methods I use to keep my best friend, wife and lover happy and satisfied.

When you are alone with your significant other what do you do? Does the radio come and the television, plus perhaps you throw a newspaper or book in front of your face. Now this may seem extreme, however I am willing to bet it goes on in more households than you think. Instead try some of the suggestions below:

Leave the radio, stereo and television off. Turn off the telephone for awhile. Next if your significant other has dry skin, pull out some moisturizing lotion and ask him/her to lay down and either loosen or remove their clothing. Gently rub the lotion into their skin. Enjoy the feel of the lotion as it oozes between your fingers. Plus feel how his/her skin feels against your hands. Listen to him/her breathe, as their body relaxes, their breathing will slow down too. There does not have to be any intense conversation, just be together in a quite relaxing moment.

Does something need done around the house? For example, have the dishes piled up, or does the vacuum cleaner need run or maybe the laundry is stacked up. Do not say anything to give away your plans, just do it. When he/she gets home they will appreciate the thoughtfulness of you doing whatever it is you did. As an example my wife is a short woman. Our ceiling light/fan in the kitchen had a very short pull chain which she could not reach. Without her asking I went out to Walmart and purchased a pull chain for a few dollars and put it up one day while she was out. When she seen the extended chain her face beamed with delight and she thanked profusely. In fact, three years later she still talks about it and I have been trying to top that one small simple act of kindness. The key word for me is trying. No matter how I try I have not been able to top that pull chain in her eyes. Oh well it should be a fun life trying to top it.

Keep a supply of "I Love You" greeting cards. A number of times each year, possibly 6 to 10, I sign one of the cards and leave it for her to find. Sometimes I leave it on her pillow, in her purse, in the dresser or even in the refrigerator. Not only does it reinforce to her how special she is to me, because I took the time to think about her, but it is very rewarding to watch her face brighten up when she opens the envelope. Do it on a day that has no other special meaning other than to say I Love You.

Sexuality is a big part of our lives. And as Americans we spend so much time and effort in denying our sexuality. Human Beings are sexual creatures by nature. And all of us, women and men, think about it, fantasize about it and desire/need it. Sex gives us a physical bond with each other that can not be achieved any other way. Through sex we express our physical and emotional selves to the one we love. The best sex is between two people who love each other and have a complete trust in each other. Listen to each other when the subject of sex comes up. Have you ever discussed your fantasies? Or what about what turns you on? If you are honest with yourself and your lover you will be able to openly discuss what turns you both on, plus what you both fantasize about.

My family always had to go see the relatives every year, even if it meant borrowing more money than could be repaid. Not once did my parents go somewhere just for each other. Try it, even if it is only a night away or a nice dinner at a better restaurant. If money is the issue, then save a little bit of money at the end of each day and let it build up until you have enough to pay for that special time.

Hopefully these suggestions will help you to keep your relationship fresh, exciting and romantic.

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